Hey… today we get into a difficult topic of forgiveness. And I must admit that it’s my lifelong struggle and one of the biggest lessons I haven’t mastered yet. In my life, just like most of you I’ve experienced situations where I was hurt by others. I’ve been mistreated and abused, neglected and lived through hell of self-hate and low self-worth because of the actions of people who should have supported and protected me. These experiences left deep emotional scars that kept weighing me down for years, affecting my mental well-being and happiness. And it wasn’t until I started working on my own healing when I realized that I’m already equipped with the most powerful tool that will help me to heal and set free from emotional burdens – it’s called forgiveness.
I learnt a lot about letting go of anger and resentment from wonderful teachings of Ajahn Brahm – I highly recommend watching this video to understand the deeper meaning of letting things go. Forgiving others is not about excusing other people’s behavior or pretending that hurt has never happened. I undertook a huge and important journey to understand that in fact it’s my conscious choice to release all my negative emotions and resentment that I held onto for years. It’s been eating me up and it was so easy to put blame on everyone else who abused me or didn’t protect me. By forgiving people who wronged me I was finally able to take an important step towards my own emotional freedom. I’ve found great help in multiple self-development books but also countless youtube videos like that one I’ve shared above or this one where you can hear some very wise words from Dr. Petersen. He stated clearly what I’ve come to realize that there is no much difference between forgiving other people and forgiving yourself, which has also been my struggle. I love that he encouraged me to stop taking myself apart more than it’s necessary and start defending myself from me. Surprisingly, I’ve found it way easier to forgive others rather than forgiving myself for making a mistake.
One of the key reasons why forgiving people was crucial for my emotional well-being was that it allowed me to let go of the heavy baggage of anger, bitterness, and resentment. Holding onto these negative emotions only served to harm me for many years, keeping me trapped in a cycle of pain and suffering. I realized that when I forgive, I’m freeing myself from all this burden and opening the door to my healing and inner peace and God! How I need peace!.I also read some studies that have shown that holding onto grudges and harboring resentment has detrimental effects on my physical and emotional health – and I felt it in my entire body for many years. I also realized that forgiveness is a powerful tool for my personal growth and transformation – and I needed to change my ways. I know that when I forgive others, I’m practicing empathy, understanding, and acceptance. This is in fact an act of grace and compassion and it does not only benefit the person I forgive but also has a profound impact on my own character and values.
I’m glad I’ve learnt that forgiving people is essential for achieving my own emotional freedom. It allowed me to release the shackles of the past, heal my emotional wounds, and create space for love, joy, and peace in my life. Once I’ve forgiven my life has become easier and I found my peace. By choosing forgiveness, I chose to free myself from the burden of negativity and open myself up to a brighter, more fulfilling future filled with content and happiness. It’s so difficult and I’m still not quite yet there with forgiveness. But I’m definitely closer than years ago. Just try… it’s worth it. May forgiveness be your guiding light, illuminating the path to emotional freedom and ultimate liberation.
Love and forgive…
Catch soon!
/A.
